Some people see intercourse as the star of the sexual show, but when it comes to the assigned female at birth (AFAB) orgasm, the numbers tell a different story. 

Researcher Dr. Laurie Mintz asked women how they orgasm. Only 4% said penetration and the other 96% said clitoral stimulation.

The vast majority of people with vulvas need clitoral stimulation to reach the finish line. But learning how to get there can feel overwhelming, especially if you're new to masturbating or have never added clitoral stimulation to partnered sex before. 

Learning how to rub the clitoris in a way that feels good for you is key to cultivating a healthy sex life, and it all boils down to your unique body. Here’s everything you need to explore your clitoral anatomy and find the types of touch you like.

What is the clitoris?

The clitoris, or clit, is a part of the vulva. It looks like a small, button-like area of flesh on the outside, but inside, the clitoris anatomy is made up of an extensive network of tissues and nerves. This structure is densely packed with more nerve endings than anywhere else in the human body.  

The clit’s sole function is sexual desire and pleasure — impressive, right? This differentiates it from other body parts that offer sexual pleasure. For example, the penis and prostate in people assigned male at birth (AMAB) serve multiple biological roles, and both are necessary for human reproduction. 

Even though the clitoris doesn’t facilitate pregnancy and childbirth, sexual pleasure itself is being increasingly recognized by modern science as vital for procreation. It also plays an essential role in masturbation for many people with vulvas, and the benefits of self-pleasure include stress and pain relief, enhanced mood, and confidence.  

Stimulating the clitoris is also one of the most common ways for people with vulvas to achieve orgasm. And regular orgasms offer incredible benefits for wellness and sexual health, like better sleep, a stronger pelvic floor, and even a boosted immune system. 

Where is the clitoris?

You'll find the clitoris at the top of the vulva, beneath the point where the labia minora meet. Depending on your anatomy, it might be covered by the clitoral hood — a small fold of skin. The clitoral hood protects against excessive clit stimulation, which feels uncomfortable for some people. 

The visible nub portion of the clitoris, called the glans clitoris, is only a tiny part of the entire sexual organ. The internal anatomy of the clitoris, called the corpora, extends inside the body. The whole thing looks like an upside-down Y or wishbone shape.

The clitoris’s legs, called crura, and vestibular bulbs surround the vaginal canal and contain erectile tissue that becomes large and sensitive during sexual arousal. Much like someone with a penis getting an erection, this engorgement is part of what helps you feel pleasure. 

How to stimulate the clitoris: 10 tips and techniques 

Learning how to touch yourself is one of the best ways to be able to have a clitoral orgasm, but the journey is important, too. Pleasure is more than the finish line. It’s also about discovering what feels good for better experiences down the road — with or without a partner.

Try one of these 10 tips and techniques to get to know your clit:  

1. Set the mood

Ambiance can go a long way toward arousal, so dim the lights, light a candle, and put on your favorite playlist. This sets the scene and signals to your brain that it's time to unwind and focus on making yourself feel good. You can also try different settings, like the bedroom or the couch in the living room, depending on what’s most comfortable. 

2. Try guided masturbation

If you’re not sure where to start, guided masturbation can help. Quinn has dozens of erotic audios that can walk you through a session and tell you what to do. They’re both hot and helpful. Great options include The Thought of You by Cera, Spicy Meditation by Mango Lynx, and Step-By-Step Instructions by Chris Yamez.

3. Listen to audio erotica 

Audio erotica can whisk you away to a whole new world. These stories are incredibly immersive — instead of just watching porn, you’re part of the narrative. Quinn offers a broad range of categories and playlists from talented creators. Try everything from edging to voyeurism to find what turns you on. 

4. Start slow 

The clitoris is a powerhouse of orgasmic pleasure, but that means it’s super sensitive for many people. To build arousal without going overboard, start slow with gentle touches before speeding things up if you want. If you start to feel overstimulated, it’s okay to slow down or stop.

5. Try different strokes 

Variety is the spice of life, and this holds true for how you touch yourself. To find out what works for you, experiment with circular motions, light taps, and anything else you can think of. Each technique has a unique feel, and playing around can help you learn what makes your body respond.

6. Use different types of pressure

Vary the pressure during clit stimulation. A barely-there touch is electrifying for some people, while others crave firmer, more direct contact. Trying different types of pressure lets you customize the masturbation experience to be exactly what you need at the moment — whether that's full speed ahead to a quick orgasm or a more extended session. 

7. Add sex toys

Introduce sex toys and lube to your solo time. From rumbly vibrators to clit suckers, each toy offers something different, and a little battery-powered friend can amplify your sexual pleasure exponentially. Sex toys also add variety and new experiences to your routine, keeping things fresh. 

8. Know your anatomy

Learning about your anatomy can be a game-changer for sexual pleasure. You probably know the basics, but discovering more about your unique sexuality, erogenous zones, and the inner workings of your body can help you push the right buttons. 

9. Switch up your positions 

Have you ever masturbated while lying on your stomach, on your knees, or standing up? Changing up your position can affect sexual sensations in new ways and offer unique angles and intensities of stimulation. 

10. Incorporate household objects 

Homemade sex toys can make masturbation more fun. For clitoral stimulation, use an electric toothbrush, removable showerhead, or back massager as a vibrator — just be sure to clean it thoroughly first and exercise caution. These items make great DIY vibes in a pinch or if you're not ready to purchase a sex toy yet. If you use a household object for penetrative masturbation, put a condom on it.

Find what feels good with Quinn 

Ready to explore? The Quinn platform is here to help. Whether you’re looking for an instructional guide or a spicy story, Quinn has everything you need to immerse yourself in the moment. If you’re a sucker for a good friends-to-lovers story, start with Friends to Spoons,which is full of spicy flirting and clit play. Or if you’re using a toy, try Strawberry Vibe, where creator Cera takes you along her own journey. 

To access thousands more narrated sex stories, guided masturbation sessions, and playlists, download the Quinn app for iOS or Android.